Hi GL, most of the time on weekends she doesn't have the kids she doesn't really do much of anything, this weekend we were at the ballfields all day yesterday until about 6:30 last night, her mother and mother's BF were at the house and they went out to dinner. She was back home after that. Friday night she was at home by herself. She will sometimes go out with friends to dinner and a movie but as far as I know that is it. As far as work goes, we both work for the same company so if there was anyone she was seeing at work I believe I would know about it. She is not into computers, as that was one of her gripes with me because I was constantly on them so I don't see her emailing others, she just doesn't do it. Her weekdays are work until 5:00 and then off to get the boys and to ball practice, then home which is normally around 9:00 and off to bed. I just don't see there being another man.
Her issues with me are I was a controlling individual and nothing seemed to make me happy. I did not put any effort into our M as I thought we were OK as many others here. We seemed to argue alot and I was a verbal abuser with a lot of put downs to her for no reason at all. She had just had enough of it.
What is currently making this easier for W is she has the kids all but every other weekend, she is still in our house, I am paying the house payment, not a whole lot has changed in her mind except the fact that she no longer has to walk on egg shells without me being there which is what she likes. At first I was getting alot of mixed feelings with her, she didn't know which way she wanted to go with our M, now it appears she is set on ending it as she no longer brings up things she was in the past, she would bring up things about what we needed to do to the house and vacations with the kids but that has been a few months back and I haven't heard anymore on those types of things from her. Of course when she would bring these things up I would provoke R talks and would ask her how she could talk about the future if she doesn't want me in them.
Sorry for the long post, it just appears things have gone from where I did have more hope in the beginning to not having a lot of hope where we are today.
