Man, lodo, that sounds so much like my W's last day getting her stuff out. I really feel for you and share a lot of your conflicted feelings. When my W said those things (you should hate me, I'm no good, etc) I felt so bad for her. Imagine! Feeling bad for the person that violated your deepest trust in the most hurtful way possible! She also says every now and then how mutual friends and people at work sometimes give her the cold shoulder or treat her differently because they don't understand or agree with what she is doing. She often complains "Why do they treat me like that? They act like I'm evil."
Well.... now that you mention it...
But like you, I couldn't bring myself to point out those things. She already knows all that, that's why it upsets her. But I still can't understand how she can feel that her actions and decisions are poor, but she charges full steam ahead anyway. Until she comes to grip with that and SHE makes the decision to change course, I'll focus on myself and my future without her. Of course there's a part of me that is hoping for a different outcome, but most of me has accepted the fact that it likely won't happen.
It sounds like you are handling things pretty well, on balance. So keep it up. There isn't any way that you SHOULD act. And if you think you might have handled things differently or better, make a note of it for the future -- but don't kick yourself over it. It's not like it was a missed opportunity that is lost forever.
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