CW, it sounds like your H feels unworthy of you. It must be so confusing--as it is for me too. Last night H&I started watching a movie together, but I lost interest in the movie and I also couldn't stop thinking of some of the things he accused me of in MC on Friday, so I went up to bed. I was starting to feel like we've entered stage2 (friendship), but then my hurt and resentment and guilt flood me.
I do question the DB idea of becoming the greener grass--as you are doing. It's great in a way, but I think it can be scary for the WAS. In my case, there is no question that my H is OVER me, big-time, and just wants to see me happier so he can move on.
Me/X-H: 47/48 T 19 yrs M 16 years D14 D10 ILYBINILWY: 10/07 H moved out 6/08
