Financials set to be sorted.

[ACJ]

Cat & TL thank you.

TL it is really spooky that you posted on my thread b/c I was only thinking about you yesterday. I did not have time to come to the BBs then but I will look for you now!

[ACJ]

Well I may not have (or ever) DB my M but it seems I DBed D17 over the last couple of days

When she came home from college today she was in a much better mood than the last couple. We hadn't talked about her visit to see H on Monday b/c I try not to ask questions anymore. She normally tells me but to be fair on Monday when she got in I was in bed and yesterday she was in a foul mood again.

Anyway today she told me about her visit to H. Apparently he is applying for jobs. She said the atmosphere was a bit stifled and there were some uncomfortable silences. D12 had already told me that she didn't say much whilst she was there so I already had an impression that this might have been the case.

It seems they were talking about her going to uni and how she couldn't wait to go. I forget the exact convo but I jokingly said something about me not knowing whether she was going to come home or not on Monday night b/c she was in such a foul mood when she left for Hs. She stood up (and I thought I had upset her again), came across to me, kissed my forehead and said 'We have had few disagreements in the last couple of days. I'm sorry'

What with this and the note from D12 last week I think I need shares in Kleenex!

Tonight was D17s parents evening at college. It was a disaster. Not b/c she is doing badly, quite the opposite but b/c we missed 2 out of our 3 appointments. It was b/c they had arranged for someone to come and check the finance forms that need to be filled out for when she goes to uni. They were 40 mins behind with thier appointments. As ours was at the end of the evening it meant that one teacher had gone before we got out of the appointment with finance and the other one was only still there b/c she had nipped to the toilet before leaving. When we explained what had happened she very kindly sat down with us and told us (me) what I needed to know. Fortunately the meeting with the 3rd teacher had been prior to our appointment with the finance man. To make matters worse the finance man was the rudest person I have met in a long time (except H of course ). I will be letting the college now of my unhappiness tomorrow.

[ACJ]

I've had quite a productive day so far.

I've had my haircut as I'm going out tonight to celebrate my birthday which is on Monday. At least now that horrible grey has gone

My MIL has been round. She wanted to bring D18s birthday present (her birthday is next saturday) b/c she has bought her a watch (as asked) and she wanted to make sure she liked it and then could still wear it on her 18th.

Then I've spent the rest of the afternoon making D17s 18th bday card. I'm no expert but although I say it myself I have made an excellent job. I can't describe it to you (or even take a picture and post it) b/c it is in the shape of her name and I don't want to post that here. I thought of the idea about a week ago and although I have had to modify it a little for logistical reasons I am very happy with it. I just need to devise a verse to go inside now. I will show it to my mum when she is here tomorrow to get her opinion (as she is the arty one amongst us).

[ACJ]

Had a great time last night out with my friends.

SIL came for the meal and she told me something very interesting. Like me SIL is studying at the moment. She has an exam this week. A couple of weeks ago she was studying at home and BIL was taking care of thier two young children. At one point BIL told SIL that H was coming round to visit as OW was studying and she wanted the house to herself! SIL said she looked at BIL in disbelief b/c he hadn't mentioned to H that SIL was also studying. Anyway apparently when H turned up he also had OW with him. She stayed two mins and then went back to her studying. Although SIL doesn't know for def she was fairly certain that this was to make sure the H actually went where he said he was going!!!!!!!! I'm beginning to like this being dark and still

The kids have gone out to breakfast with H today. I didn't even know they had arranged it until about 15 mins before he arrived. I got up late b/c I didn't come in until 2am. Needless to say I didn't look my prettiest so I stayed upstairs and got a shower. D12 and S15 were not ready when he arrived so D17 made him a cup of tea. It must have been the longest time he has spent in our house since Christmas. I found myself frustrated at not seeing him but also quite content that I was in charge of any potential interaction.

[princess_nic]

Hi Alison!

I've been keeping up but haven't posted to you in a bit. So, your b-day is coming up tomorrow!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

(In case I forget.)

I am sure you look lovely with your new haircut, and I am really glad that you went out for a fun time with your friends.

I don't understand why anyone would get involved w/ someone who left their S for said person (or who met shortly after, as in your H's case). OW should be worried, since her bf is obviously not to be trusted! What kind of a R is that? We've BTDT, right? Never again! I am sure that if you and your H get back together, he is going to have to prove his trustworthiness to you so you don't have to follow him around! Who needs that?

It's nice to feel in control, isn't it? And I'm pretty sure that H will wonder why you're not desperate to see him. I think these MLCers really get something out of seeing how much we want them back. Since they don't feel good about themselves, they need that to fill them up. Like vampires, lol!

Oh, and D17's card sounds so original. You are very creative - give yourself some credit for that! It's not just your mum who is.

Love,
Nicola

[cat03]

awwww, Happy bday hon))))))))))))))))))

[almosthopeful]

Happy bday, alison.

Hugs,
AH

[BeingMe]

Happy Birthday, ACJ!!!!! You sound like you dealing with a lot, but with strength!

Take care!

[ACJ]

Thank you for all your birthday wishes.

It hasn't gone well so far! Out of my three children only D12 remembered to wish me happy birthday (and that was as she was half way out the door to school). To be fair D17 is ill in bed again. I think she over did it with working full time in the Easter holidays and every time she is run down she gets an incredibly sore throat. If this goes as normal she will sleep it off today and be much better tomorrow. S15 got a TM this morning to say his GFs grandmother has died. She had a stroke a few weeks ago. I understand he is upset but he is refusing to go to school. I can't make him understand that society says that unless the person is a blood relative you have to pick yourself up and get on with it. He only has 5/6 weeks left at school until his exams start. He just isn't interested. I'm so worried about his future.

Nic

I think these MLCers really get something out of seeing how much we want them back. Since they don't feel good about themselves, they need that to fill them up. Like vampires, lol!

I hadn't thought of it like that before but yes I think you are right.

Oh, and D17's card sounds so original. You are very creative - give yourself some credit for that! It's not just your mum who is

Yes I have given myself credit. I think I'm looking to my mum on this occassion b/c for years we didn't get on at all. Now we are closer and this is a hobby we share so it's something to keep that renewed bond going.

[ACJ]

Well it seems S15 was 'pulling the wool over my eyes' again in relation to GFs grandma dying. She has died but 3 days ago. He led me to believe she had died today. When I tackled him about this he asked me why I thought he had been so moody all weekend. I pointed out he hadn't been home for 24 hours and also that he is ALWAYS moody!

I was even more angry that school had not been in touch regarding his no-show AGAIN Eventually I phoned them to tell them yet again how unhappy I am with the way they are dealing with this issue. I threatend to send a letter to the governors. Isn't it amazing how quickly things happen when you do that

The end result was the the truancy officer finally phoned to say they will be doing a home visit on Wednesday morning at 9.30am. I asked how I was supposed to make sure S15 is there given that I am normally nagging him to go to school for 8.55am. They said to tell him that he can have a day off! (That's got to be reverse psychology surely?). They said if he did turn up to school prior to this time they would bring him with them.

So I have done my parental responsibility bit and let H know that this meeting is taking place and that he is welcome to attend if he wishes. I told him it was imperative that S15 knows nothing of this meeting in advance so as not to jeopardise it's effect. It's up to him whether he decides that this is an important enough issue that he needs to be present.