THough I don't think I've posted to you before, I have followed your thread for months now... sounds like the time away was good, but that it's also a good time to be back.
I've actually been thinking about a portion of one of your threads from a few months ago...I remember you writing a while back about having snooped on H's phone and finding explicit texts, your reaction to that and wondering why you did it. Some people talked about the idea of that knowledge moving you forward toward being done...more able to 'drop the rope'.
I feel as if I am doing the same thing after a week ago tonight reading a bunch of recent emails between my H and his long-term (I now know) OW... the feeling is alternately empowering and terrifying... any thoughts or reactions to that?
I hope you've found a good therapist for your son. I know that I will want to do the same for my Ss (12 and 18) in the near future...I think H will be moving out in the next couple of months, and feel certain there will be no turning back.
