It's ok, lmg, I appreciate your comments. No two sitch's are exactly the same.
The conventional wisdom states that "it takes two to tango", but I know that is not always the case.
I also do not think that it is LBS's fault if the WAS keeps their "dissatisfaction" with the marriage a big secret. To me, that is hostile, passive aggressive, and nothing more than a lame excuse for their bad behavior.
I really wish I could read minds; sure would make my life a lot easier. When I look back on my marriage, I was an open book. H never had to guess what I was thinking, feeling, whether or not I loved him, etc. H did not afford me the same luxury and I'm sure he felt oh-so-powerful.
Well, I have some power now and I am damned well going to use it against him. H needs to feel a bit of pain and inconvenience too. I wouldn't be doing him any favors by not teaching him this very valuable lesson.
Oh, and OW will have her eyes opened a bit too. Heh....
