God give me the patience and the strength...2

[cagzmom]

TOH -- my mom used to say the same things you do. If I wouldn't have pushed - if I wouldn't have kept asking questions - if I wouldn't have...today when she and I have talked she says the same - yes we should take ownership for our "pushing..." BUT here is the kicker ---- he yes HE lifted his fist to YOU. YOU didn't do that. If he was a "man" he would have turned and walked away - ran away if he had too...but instead he "Showed" you that YOU needed to back off.

In hte early stages of my relationship with my H I used to kick him - spit on him - try and get him to react -- push him to the point that my mom used to push my dad (REMEMBER I was trained that she deserved it because she wouldn't stop pushign) GUESS WHAT --- MY H NEVER I MEAN NEVER layed a hand on me. AND HE WOULD HAVE DESERVED TO.

As I have alreayd asked you - what would you tell your daughter if someone EVER raises a hand to her? Thats all "We" are doing...we are saying YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN THIS!! AND YES you are right - stay away from HIM from HER from them...it is toxic for you.