I'm reading a book "What to do when your spouse says, I don't love you anymore" that talks about the WAS blaming us for the affair. It talks about all of the typical blame game, being overweight, not cooking, not making love enough, not keeping a tidy house, etc. The author explains it like this. If your spouse committed a robbery or murdered someone, you wouldn't accept the blame for it. So why accept the blame for his/her adultery? The only one responsible for his/her behavior is them.



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