Other than that, I am on my way to Puerto Rico for the next week. My DB coach encouraged me to not call everyday and sometimes when I do call to make it short. For example, "Hey, can I talk to our son real quick? I only have a few minutes before we have to leave." Then the next time, he told me to leave it more open and see if she initiates any conversation. It will be good to "escape" for a while and see if she is any different when I get back.
perhaps send a text, that way you avoid the contact with her and get son directly...point being your second part "escape" for awhile and see if she initiates more conversation b/c of your distance...just a thought...
gl2u
Originally Posted By: HiC
...and try to control...
if that weren't out of my W's mouth I just don't know where you got it...in reading here online, you have to release it. Put your needs and expectations aside is great advice and I just got thru reading a post about it. Have zero expectations. See where that gets you.
Originally Posted By: HiC
...Be consistent...
ummm...that seems to be a DB given. That's probably much harder with more and more contact but you better be CONSISTENT AND PATIENT. That's the only thing that has gotten me to where I am at.
Originally Posted By: HiC
I suggested that I pay my half of the cell phone bill and car insurance...
I think that is good. He will not have a reason to ask you for money such as pool. What I read from your posts about it, just seemed like, in some way you had to do the pool b/c he did this that and the other. Now that is gone. Shows you don't need him. Not that you don't want him. But you can handle it. So, that begs the question that you'll have to answer in my solution journal...lmao...
Originally Posted By: HiC
...Lmao. Again too much speculation.
ummm...there was a time I couldn't think 7 seconds ahead. Not to mention 7 minutes, 7 days, 7 weeks or heaven knows 7 months. Despite people telling me it might take that long. And low and behold in a few days...it'll be 7 months of separation. You are so past those minutes/days thing that no way do you need to think about over 1/2 a year. Heck, he probably doesn't know what he is doing in 2 weeks...so you better not spend your time analyzing what he has no clue about...
gl2uall...HiC, check my journal if you get time...
