But my point is, most of the time an affair has nothing to do with a spouse's imperfections (although ANY excuse for one occuring will be sought out by the offending spouse). Sure, there are marriages with problems which make them more vulnerable to affairs. But there are perfectly good marriages, with great spouses, where affairs occur....
I think you're right, my H is having an affair with a former co-worker he worked closely with for almost 2 years. They started texting, calling, my H probably thinking it was ok b/c they were both married and I guess at some point they obviously did cross the line.
I have been blaming myself for this for the past months, but realized this past week or so that I have changed everything about myself that my H said was a problem for him (I wanted to work on these issues also of course), plus other improvements as well (more self confidence, lost weight, happier, etc.) and he still is having the affair & wanting the divorce. So I'm no longer blaming myself; my H is the one that has ruined our R with his affair with OW. Karen
