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[Mark1965]

Thanks Karen-

I can not Thank You enough for sound advise.. I am feeling like I am just floundering..

My confidence is so low - Are (R) was going great until (OM)come into the sith..

Items to work on -I have been doing some of that =- She responded - Wanted to join in-But including her - It came to complete stop with my 180 for myself..Then right back to the drinking with her-

She always brings up issues from over a year ago I believe she can't or won't seem to quit using that as a means to upset me.. She knows I haven't done anything once a problem is identified and has never been repeated again -But she when drinking -Brings it up..

She also recently when she is drinking - Brings up the (OM) and I can't seem to get hwer away from that topic.Until I get pissed and say ugly things about (OM).. Thens never fails - we split again for a day or so .. Brother Inlaw told me today - The (OM) has been to her house before.. On more than several times.. He thought I knew.. Made me swear to not disclose -It would be huge problems with him and her and inlaws..

Also she had told me - She was spending the night out of town with her (D) on Sunday ..Uhmm. Knowing what I know now? Sure - I didn't fall off truck -I jumped off truck .. Agree??

Can you believe G/F is still in complete denial about (OM)has claimed she hasn't talked or texted him in days..Nearly over a week.Even so -she I believe really doesn't understand when I tried to explain it as an (EA) with (OM).. She always goes to -That there is nothing wrong with what they are doing - (OM) has never even stepped out of line - I tried to tell her - Thats right - Before you can conquer -One must divide..

He knows - I can not stand him nor his presence around me..

I will try 100 % opposite behavior..
Allow him to remove her things from my house..
Everyone knows I am just crazy about her..

She is ruining the (R) ever sense I started warning her of this bad feeling about him and that I can see through it. That it wasn't good for our (R).. She and him started defending thier friendship.. It would make me so sick -I would tell them both and each-other alone- I was so wierd - Tring to hard to convince me -That it was that clear something wasn't right about it???


I kinda brought my mom into a few things today.. They never (G/F and my mom ) never really hit it off..

Like she suggested to me:

If all one sees are my imperfections and none of my good points.. Is that Love?

Also - Advise I gave my (D) once seems to ring so true..

She (D)called to me and told me me she was afraid she was over-drawn in her bamk account.. I told her - Well you have a B/F.. What would happen if you told him??

Would he say:
We have a problem and will work it out together?

Would he say - I will let you borrow the money to cover your loss- But you will have to repay me??

Would he say :
I dont have any way or means to help you ? What about your dad or another person you might be able to borrow needed funds to cover your loss?

If it is anything less than 1st -We will work it out together - Then review status of (R)..

Your thoughts anyone ??