oh, and one more thing, to all of you who have spouses that have met the "loves of their lives", every lawyer in that room today made me laugh so hard telling me that in all the years they have been practicing, the affair ends 99.9 percent of the time. Why? Because it's based on an allusion. It's based on a fairy tale. No bills, no headaches, no wife or husband bitching at them - you get the drill. But as time goes on , the ow ALWAYS starts to make demands. Now the h (or w) has TWO problems, dealing with current spouse and this other person making demands. It's always the way.
They literally had me in tears with some of their stories. It's wierd, they are laywers, but they are actually very pro-marriage, because in New York, as it is a fault state and if there are children, the courts want what's best for the child and it's a very long and EXPENSIVE process for the h (or w) who is trying to get out.
