I'm only going by where you've come from. I even went back and read ALL of your posts this morning -- here and on MLC. There is a pattern with you and your wife, where she mollifies you for awhile, you back off the pressure, and she backslides into her affair (or perhaps she hadn't ever even ended it).
I see a lot of "she agreed to" and "is considering" and "she claims" and "I told"s. What people in affairs, and their betrayed spouses, SAY means very little-to-nothing. Their ACTIONS is the only thing that does.
Empirically, MOST marriages that have already been broken by infidelity will suffer from a recurrence without a bullet-proof no-contact and transparency plan. The fact that your wife has been carrying on as long as she has, and the fact that her boyfriend is a SERIAL ADULTERER, makes your odds much, much worse.
I just calls 'em as I sees 'em. I could always be wrong. But I would encourage you to go back and read your own posts with as unbiased an eye as you can muster.
