I'm not in the business of trying to beat you or anyone else up. Just trying to observe from the outside and tell you what I see. I think you're getting there, but still have things and attitudes that you could change to make this easier on you.
Here's your earlier remark that triggered my post from the other day...
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Ihave given him a choice to make and really I just want to know what that choice is so I can have a direction to travel...
And here are my thoughts, hopefully clearer than I wrote the other day...
1. Why are you still giving him options/choices? Hasn't he already made it clear to you through his words that his choice right now is to NOT make a choice?
He loves you both. Would accept being with either of you. If you take him, he'll go with you. Unless the other woman wants him too, then he'll have to think about it.
Do you hear what YOU ARE in his words? You're an option.
I don't want to be "an option" for my spouse. I want to be the only person that they want to be with, period.
2. The end of your statement suggests that you are waiting for HIS decision to make YOUR decision. Why? The path to peace and healing from the LBS standpoint does not involve being led by the choices of the MLC spouse.
In my personal situation, my ex-wife DROVE and FORCED one decision on me - that was the decision to divorce. She caused pain and destruction with that decision, but I could do nothing about it.
I decided then that she would no longer force ANY decisions on me. I would not allow her to bring any additional pain or destruction into my life by her words or actions.
THAT is when I began to truly live for ME and my boys.
And THAT is when I began to find peace and healing.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
