There's really nothing to report on my situation. My W and I had a very nice Father's Day weekend. We've only had 1 R talk in the past month and it went reasonably well. I still try to focus mostly on what she does, which is very positive, rather than what she says during R talks, which is mostly confusing. I'm just trying to work on myself most of the time.
Right now we are trying to come up with a solution for a friend of hers that got drawn into this thing. When I was email snooping to discover the affair about a year ago, the emails that I got the "dirt" on her were between her and her woman friend discussing the OM. Her friend was also having an affair at the time. My W told her friend that I had seen some emails and now there is some unspoken tension between us. Her friend wants to visit (she lives out of state) but is hesitant to see me. I proposed sending a peace offering and my W has agreed in principle. So, I need to compose an email to the friend that says in effect "hey, no hard feelings, let's just move on and not worry about what happened". I think that about sums it up for our R at this time. Much of what is going on in terms of affair recovery is just cleanup (if you're interested I'll let you know what the biggest cleanup issue is later). The major work has already been accomplished with respect to the As. Now, we are just working on the two of us, one small step at a time. Perhaps since you are not making some of the big mistakes I made in the beginning, you will achieve your peace sooner than I did.
