Hi, just letting everyone know that we are still alive and kicking....lol. My H has been really sick the past three weeks and he is so stubborn about going to a doctor! He has also ran out of his AD meds and he is not easy to live with under those conditions, but he did something the other night that I think may make twice in 42 years he has done.
He was coughing every breath and was weak as a dish rag and I asked him if he had taken any medicine and he said no. (This drives me crazy b/c I can't understand why he had rather suffer than take medicine and why he won't take it regulary instead of letting himself get so bad. But I think he is old enough to know what to do and I am not going to be his mother. As I understand it, men don't want their W's to be there mama, so I don't "nag" him about it.) However, when he said "no" between gasping for breath....I asked him "Why"? He got mad and answered me rather grouchy, so I just turned around and left the room and got busy doing something else. I didn't say a word, but I thought that if he had rather lay there and cough himself to death before he took some medicine.....so be it.
Well, later he came and apologized to me. I nearly fainted. I was at the computer and he laid his hand on my shoulder and said, "I'm sorry I was such a grouch earlier", and I patted his hand and told him it was okay and that I understood. That was a big step for him b/c he use to never do that!
I think he has had a bad reaction to the pollen for the first time. He isn't convinced that is what it is and he just takes cough meds. When I got him to take allergy meds, it got a little better. But it is severe enough that I think he needs to see a doctor b/c this constant hard coughing is hard on his heart. It is not in his chest or I would really be scared, but still the constant coughing is bad for him. The kids are getting worried about him. I know it appears that I don't care, but ever since we have been married, (which he was seldom sick), if I ever showed any concern about him....he would act mad. Now maybe some of you men could explain that to me. Why doesn't he like for me to do something for him when he is sick? Why does he act mad and push me away? He doesn't do anyone else that way. Is it b/c he feels less than a man just b/c he is sick?
When he came home from his heart surgery....it was terrible. I thought I was going to pull my hair out. He does not make a good patient when I am his nurse....lol. Thank goodness he isn't sick often.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
