eee, ROOT and JoieDeVivre are right, it takes time. I am actually back here on the board for the same reason. For me It has been almost 10 months since W's A ended, and I still have little things happen that cause me to think back and remember how hurt and pissed I was. Its different now because it is a painful memory, rather than a gut wrenching reality, and things are actually really good between W and I. But, I still get the random thought or memory that hits me. Now I just try to remember not to focus on it.
Like JoieDeVivre, I am holding back on some of my feelings because I know that it will be a difficult conversation to bring up the past. But I think she is right in that if I don't talk about it with her it will lead to me bottling up things in the future, and THAT was one of the big mistakes that got me here in the first place.
Seeing that others are here dealing with the same issues is encouraging. I'll take it as a sign that I'm still getting better. You should too.
Good Luck to you.
M 39, W 35 D7, S5 Friends 18+ Together 11+ Married 8 ILYBINILWY 4/7/07 - A BOMB 4/29/07 Seperated 5/16/07 - D Filed She Moved out 7/1 D Busted 6/15/08