Jak and Matilda, I enjoyed sharing my poem with you and others on this forum. My writing notebook gets more full and messier, so I guess that's a sign that I'm making progress. Putting it all together will come later.
My W and I met with the financial planner yesterday. It was good to resume a dialogue about retirement planning. My W said that she began thinking about it again after her most recent birthday.
The past five years have not been great financially, with the separation, my W's depression, and the distance in the M Now that she is revisiting this issue she is anxious, and possibly has other feelings too. It feels good to begin partnering again on this issue.
I've started asking people in my network to help me find someone who would be interested in partnering with my W in quitting smoking. She has given me permission to look for her. I don't think she's going to do it by herself. Joing a group is too big a step, as she has shame around this issue. She also needs space away from well-meaning family members, so she can struggle in private.
I spoke with a salesman who visits my worksite about his trip to Hawaii. I told him how a travel agent I spoke with quoted a trip there as starting at 8K. He told me that he was able to do it for far less, and is going to send me the name of the place where he stayed.
I'm going to speak with one of my W's friends about his trip to Hawaii. My W has doubts about Puerto Vallarta. I've let my W know that I'm still open to exploring the Hawaii trip.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
