Dear Ping, I am glad to hear that and I have no doubt that you can step-up to do what needs to be done. Like you said, most people think everything is fine b/c their S stops saying anything and seems all is behind them, so it is a shock when they are hit with the "bomb". But Ping, there are a lot of success stories. Those on the board that think that there aren't any is partly due to the fact that most move on with their lives after the M is healed and eventually stop posting. One of the main persons that helped me stuck around for a long time after her H came back and they pieced their M together again. She wanted to help folks like us that are here, but she hasn't had a thread in a long time and I don't see her posting to others, so she is involved with her family. There are others, too, that have healed R and have left the board. Someday, your M will be healed and for a while I hope you will hang around to help those that are new to the board reaching out for advice. You will be able to look back at what you have learned and help others.
Don't give up Ping. You will slip from time to time....we all do, just don't quit. Stay strong and determined.
You take care of Ping! Okay? We care about you and your family making a success story.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
