I would not give up the financial end of things in order to play nice, esp. if you have been the nice responsible one in the marriage.

I was reading advice from a D lawyer, and one of the Don'ts was to play nice so your WAW would see what a great person you are.

She will not have to face her situation fully that way, either.


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D