You compromised on a LOT. What I hear you saying is, "I told her this time in no uncertain terms that these were my deal-breakers, and she knows I mean business, but I let her only do half of them, but she knows that NEXT time, by golly, that she has to do ALL of them, or else I'm filing for divorce!"
You blinked. I'll have more later, but this alone trips the "RRRRRRRR!" buzzer:
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I told her that if she could look me in the eye and tell me that she did in fact tell OM on Monday that she couldn't talk to him any more, I would accept that
All cheaters lie. She has already shown you that SHE will lie. The great job you've done recently, up to this point, has only made her even more desperate, which means she's HIGHLY likely to say ANYTHING to avert the consequences from kicking in.
So from a person in that frame of mind, and your self-described fog . . . you are taking her "word" the she won't have contact. Doesn't seem wise to me, at all.
No Retro weekend, no MC. No "no-contact" letter. And, she now has YOUR issues on the table, even though she has YET to addressed the infidelity on your original terms, and they will be addressed apparently without a professional MC present to help call her on her bullchit.
Like I said, you blinked. It won't work. Sorry to be so negative, but that's how I see it and it's what I would tell my little brother or my best friend if they were going thru the same situation. I strongly suggest you reconsider, and tell her you've had a change of heart.
