M:43 G/F:45 (OM):31 Married -even with small children R:1YRS 8 months
It started simple enough.. Guy staring so hard at us as a couple in our local bar.. We notice it as strange-He is unknown to us at that time. He engages small talk with us.. I then start to see where - every time we are there at bar -He shows up unannounced -I knew G/F didn't know - I didn't either - R was great at that time.. (OM) starts over taking our entire time out together.. Talking directly to her-Leaving me out -Even to point when I go to restroom-HE TAKES MY SEAT -BESIDE HER..WTH?? I explain to G/F -(OM) is bad for us.. G/F goes into denial ..He has no friends and is wanting a friend. She is in complete denial of anything other than M trying to control and determine who can or she can not be friends with.. Found text messages between them. G/F starts hiding phone and calls- even taking cell phone to restroom while at home.. She even starts going out-side just to talk to her FRIENDS.. My(D)moves home- 21YR collage..I had gone broke and had to move (D)home. Found text messages between them : (OM) Can I call you yet? -Then she calls him back in 20 min.. (OM)to G/F -Are you moving out yet? G/f reply-YEP!! I gently ask G/F what is going on with (OM) ? She explodes-She says -Don't meddle in her business-I am too controlling to tell her who her friends can be or not? Claims I am showing the GREEN EYED MONSTER-Bad sign to her? WTH? Also -I then say to her -Look I need some kinda commitment -I don't want to waste years of time - Only for her to never commit to me? She says -Days later-She will never marry again-But if her living with me wasn't good enough to move on?
I then see her phone bill??? Uhmm 685 min to (OM)of a 700 min plan.. (OM)phone bill- IS $600 dollars over normal as well?? But they just chat as friends????? She goes and visits friend in hospital? Falls sleep at friends house with friends (H) and her son?? Comes home at 4am..
She has girl's night out -Claims to have gone out with (OM) and his (W)Verify she did-She was seen by my good friend - He tells me though -He asked about me : She told him-Where were taking a break? All along -She continues the cell phone crap -Hiding it ? Deleting everything? Am I this stupid?? On my birthday-I exploded -Moved her out by force? Please dont lose me here? It is known -That it was totally out of my charchter?
She comes and goes? She still is in denial? We have had sex once sinse 11th March.. She continues to call me almost daily? Comes to sleep at my house I show up crying (drinking ) get in bed with her and go to sleep -Explaing my deepest love and it is ripping me up? She still deny's eveything?
So she even called me - just before I was leaving to go to her house to work in her yard? She ask if OK -If (OM) CAN COME BY - HE IS MAD WITH WIFE AND NOWHERE TO GO? I knowing I had no choice -Said ok? But it went ugly? I was a smart butt towards him?
Last night - Somehow (OM)comes up? I keep trying to shut down that talk about him? For approx 2 hours this goes on??? I told G/F-Lets move to neighbors house (Her brother In law and sister house)Finally after even her family chimes in about the GREEN EYED MONSTER- I exploded -Saying I am a good man- I left and went home to my house.. Got my clothes and bag I had packed for the weekend and left.. Her family was saying to stay-G/F said -No let him go ? I was a smart butt said something back -cant remember and went home ??
I came to believe or at-least feel like G/F was trying to run me opff- But she Deny's that - I was the ugly one?
WHAT the Heck ??
WHAT CAN OR DO NOW??
I am shaking still this morning ? Oh she did call late last night once-I didn't answer?/ I am afraid she is gone? She is the type -That if I do not respond with something - She moves on?? I cant even think straight this morning ---
PLEASE HELP ME ??
Also I have been writing every detail of our (R)almost complete -But it seems the more I write about it-It looks so messed up? But I do know -I am so in love with her??
M:43 G/F:45 R: 1 yr and 8 months
We all want to be loved... With someone who is in Love with You
