God give me the patience and the strength...2

[theotherhalf]

Now your H calls all sweet as pie and you're sucking it all up- because you can't be a b*tch? Wait a minute! Nothing is changing. This is the same pattern. Change it.

I didn't suck anything up. He talked...I listened...I hung up. I was not nice to him. He was not sweet. He apologized as any human being should. I did not tell him it was okay. There was no buttering up on either end.

the calls from him the other night were like nothing ever happened. And yea it p*ssed me off. But what good does it do for any of us if we are fighting? I have thought I should have just said I don't want to talk to you or I don't want to hear anything you have to say. But, what does that gain? And then I wouldn't know about all the stuff happening with the new job. (Insurance, pay, etc...). I'd like to think that I have been being the bigger person in this because I don't play any games. I'm not being petty. I am not letting my anger or hurt control my actions (well towards OW I have). One of us has to stay sane.