Patience is key

[addie]

I heard from H twice today. He emailed me and then called. I think I did some backsliding.
He said he needs to move out of the place where he is living and cannot find a temporary place to live until he figures out his job situation. His contract will be ending and finances will be really tight. I told him that moving back in for financial reasons was not a good reason to live together. It would be too stressful.
Here's where the backsliding starts. I told him he knew this all along but decided to make certain choices. I also said that if he were telling me that he wanted to recommit to the marriage then I would consider him moving back if we were able to address some of the issues. I said that this is not what I've heard from him and I deserve better than this (moving back in for financial reasons). I said he's obviously still very confused and I no longer want to be a part of that confusion. He really needs to look at the root cause of his unhappiness which has been on-going since before we got married and that he will be unhappy with anyone else if he does not address the issues.
H had a talk with S last night about his feelings re Sep. S asked if we were getting a D. H said "I don't know". H said the talk with S brought tears to his eyes. I said I know that I've had a few similar talks with S.
I was not at all confrontational but felt that I needed to set boundaries and talk about these things. I hope it wasn't a huge backslide.