Hi Sleeper- didn't see your post before I just posted. Thank you too. I know, it's early days, it just feels like an eternity. I'll make it one way or another! ANd I'm starting to try and limit contact, even with the kids- cutting the calls short, no e-mail unless about the kids, etc... And I recently took up Kendo (Japanese sword fighting) which is great for the anger side of things! As I said above, I just didn't expect to be 40 and in this situation- I know it's just a number, but it's a big one!
Thank again.
I am glad you are setting boundaries for your H.
You are not a doormat or someone to be kept on the back burner whilst he sorts out his feelings for OW.
You need to be strong, a person that he would respect and be proud of. You need to show him how you want to be treated and if he is unable to come up to the mark then reduce his contact (with you)
i actually let me H see son as much as he wants; but not in my home. They can go out or to my H home. H makes more of an effort with son than he ever has.
For me. No Contact is about protecting myself, allowing myself to recover from the hurt and pain of the breakup and become strong emotionally. It has given me space and time to think about what I want and what is best for me without being manipulated and upset by my H. No contact is about taking back control.
Karate is great. Any exercise is. I have spent hours just walking. Son and I have had some fantastic times wandering through the woods and playing on the beach (even in this weather)
Be strong, don't let him see you upset. let him see you are happy and he will begin to wonder why.
Good luck NC
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
