Quote: I need to have things improve at home, before I lose too much more of everything else. This confrontation may or may not be the best way to achieve that.
if you take some time to look around you will see that things are improving already...sure she's got a cell phone that you supposedly don't know about that she may or may not be using to call om...BUT...there are things that are going well in the r for you right?? things are improving right??
what if you tried to focus on the positive (hey that's the name of my current thread...after all I am not the angel you think...I want things all better like yesterday, but I've learned the hard way..it just doesn't work that way...wanting it NOW may make the wait longer) you will spend less time pondering those evil thoughts of "she's talking to him the whole way home" etc...
I understand your reluctance to accept the positive for positive always serching for the BUT...ie.."she called as she was leaving to let me know she'd be home on time...but I know she was talking to him the whole way home"
thinking that way or alowing yourself to wallow in the BUT instead of simply basking in the what IS...will not bring you peace...it will create tension...a tension that may serve to push w further toward om rather than closer to you.
I've had my share of blow-ups...believe me...and some of them well warrented..but they did not get me any closer to my h. heck if you want to know the truth...ow is still a customer of h's...just waiting for her to sell her house...my h has a cell phone..an office phone..a pager..a po box...all these things for his business...I don't have access to them and I suppose that's a good thing because like you...I would be looking..snooping..trying to find that BUT...and if the BUT isn't there or if I made an assumption about the BUT then I'd feel like a BUTT and pull away myself.
