Hey, Monte, thanks for stopping by. Thanks for sharing your story. After I had intially found out about the "secret" cellphone, I had decided to try to stop snooping. Then after about a week, I tried, but couldn't find the dang thing. It's certainly true that I didn't obsess about it nearly as much when I didn't snoop. But then I got too clever for my own good, and found out how to access her cell account online. So now I can find out daily how much she's been using it. That's a double-edged sword, to be sure.
I'm still deciding what to do. Unless the calls stop, or I see at least a pattern of them slowing down, I'm definitely going to confront her. It's just a matter of timing. If I don't do it within a couple of days, I'll probably wait until I see the cell bill in early July (that could produce some 4th of July fireworks!). I don't know. I know that I won't simply wait it out, like lostlove, a few posts up. That woman must have the heart of an angel and the patience of Job. I really admire her ability to sustain hope. That takes incredible strength and faith. Me, I'm more like you. I want to see progress, and I want to see it NOW.
Actually, I think I've been very patient. The problem is, I don't function very well in this state. My work is certainly suffering, as are my relationships with other people. I need to have things improve at home, before I lose too much more of everything else. This confrontation may or may not be the best way to achieve that.
