Crs, good to hear there is talking. Remember, you don't need to bring up the subject about the R, but if she wants to talk....listen and validate. If you don't agree, just tell her you hear her and understand (or at least are trying to understand) and you are sorry she feels that way about it. If you feel that you can tell her honestly that you will think about what she has told you, do so. But, don't get into a fight about it. Leave the room or house before it gets to that point. If her voice start to rise.....you remain calm. Can you do that? It is when both are yelling and shouting that it gets too bad.
Keep reading the DR book and make sure you understand the LRT and "Going Dark". I think a lot of people don't get those concepts. I'm not saying that you don't, but many other people don't.
Hope the talking works for the better. I'll be thinking of you both.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
