Oh boy, I am very proud of you, I really don't think you backslide to much after all you didn't say anything about the cell phone. I think it took alot for you not to. I honestly can't say if I could have done it, I probably would have blown a gasket. I do agree w waiting until after your trip, & I also agree w you that there are alot of positive things going on. If your W is still talking to the OG, but not seeing h maybe the better the things get between the both of you s will not feel the need to talk to h & eventually break of all contact. I know it's so hard to be patient, & I know it would kill me inside to know that they were still talking, but I think the more s is pressured not to or confronted (as bad as it stinks) it won't encourage h to become even more closer to you. I still think of everything just about everyday, maybe it's a good thing so hopefully there will never be a repeat, as much as ILH I think if this happened again I would walk & never look back. See when I was pregnant w D2 my H did something similar to me I don't think my H had an PA, there was just this MOW that h used to talk to & told me things like h didn't know if h loved me anymore & so on. Mind you I was pregnant & h was emotionally treating me so badly this went on for about 2 months then one day I left & everything turned around & was ever since at least so I thought & so h acted until all this other crap went down (which lasted about 6 months)H never stayed anywhere overnight this time h always stayed at home. Like I said I really don't think anything went on w h, but everything hurt none the less & I don't think I was quite over it then h turned around and had a real A. My H turned 31 2yrs ago (the age thing really really bothers h) then right before h turned 33 h got all weird again. I'm hoping this is not a pattern (every 2yrs.) I won't be able to handle it. My 2 youngest children will be older & in school & I will leave in a heart beat. I am so afraid because ILH and h knows that & I took h back after all of the crap h has put me through that in his mind h think h can do anything & I'll always take h back. Crazy! I really don't know I wish I could jump inside h head & see what h is thinking sometimes AH HELL all the time. When is your trip? The end of the month? Boy am I envious, plus I won't be able to talk to you while your away, & it really has helped me alot. Last night was a good night we sat outside & had a fire my H was very very affection, I wish h would be like that more often, but I am not complaining I'll take when I can get it. Well I hope you have a good evening, I think your doing great. By the way does your W know you visit this site? Mine doesn't, h probably would think it was weird. ~~K~~