Hi Brian, Try not to worry about the ILY, when your W finally says it, it will totally take you by surprise & make your heart skip a beat. I have only heard it about 3 times since we have been working on things (which is more than I heard in years) Like I said before that is not unusual. I still tell my H that ILH (not as often) that's totally unnatural for me. But I feel like I need to sometimes I don't want h to think I don't. I know what you mean about looking good. My H complains because I have to put on my makeup & fix my hair before I leave the house, but I do try to put on makeup everyday even if I'm not going anywhere. Your right I do think h needs to think alittle bit. Well the cell phone bill came today, I was so nervous about opening it. To my surprise there was only 1 call to the OW. (compared to 70-90) I was hoping to see 0, but I guess only on call tells me something. (Right?) For all I know it could have had to do w work or the fact that s was calling h all the time & leaving messages, I don't know. And the fact that s won't be working w h anymore should help put me at ease even more. ( I hope) Your right we aren't to far behind eachother, it's been about 2 months for me, they have gone so much quicker than the previous 6. I worry about the future too, & do hope this is all worth it. Your going to think this is funny of me, but I kiss my H goodbye before work everyday. (that was not the case when all the crap was going on) the other day my H came to me for a kiss,(OMG) I was happy about it, but isn't it funny how the stupid little things matter to us now? Like things were taken for granted before. Well I hope you have a good night. Take care. ~~K~~