Is my WAW really done?

[HOPEFULinCALI]

Brantacan,

I echo Christa's comments above. I would be careful about making any concrete judgements about whether of not your W is done. My H was terribly cruel to me following the bomb until I really began DBing.

I started to see a permanent turn in our interactions when I showed my H that I detached. I think this is exactly what your W needs from you. Here is what I told my H, "I understand that you do not wish to be married at this time however, I still need time to cope with the sitch. I am not holding out hope for our marriage and only want to work on building a friendship." Since then we have had only positive interactions and he has opened up to a friendship often contacting me to spend time together and most recently including me in his future and using we.

All the best!