How to get past the sex thing

[sage]

Hey Brian,

Thanks for the kind words on my thread. I gotta say that I'm seeing some great stuff going on in your sitch -- not just in the responses that you're describing from your w but also in your own attitude!!!

Awesome on the no snooping thing, too!

So what am I saying? I guess it is just that as long as she still calls him, I am unsure that I can compete, that every minor flaw or problem will be amplified and exagerated, that conversation with me will be mundane and boring by comparison. And I don't even want to think about what she may think about the comparison in the sexual realm.

Reading my own words just now, I see a lack of confidence in both myself and in DBing. I don't think I have ever suffered a fundamental lack of confidence in myself, but then again, these last few months have not been self-esteem building times.

Well, you know from my thread that I can relate to this all too well...I'm starting the process of rebuilding "me" now -- through C, through figuring out how to take pleasure and pride in the other areas of my life...



keep up the great work!
sage