Thanks for the nice comments! I think I am just a positive person though compared to my negative H, unfortunately. Hopefully his C will help him or something or maybe he'll get over his MLC or whatever. It's hard to deal with him, but it is probably worse even for him being depressed & angry like that I would think!

I did send him an email at lunch time telling him about the therapy yesterday, just that Daniel wanted to spend more time with him and we need to try to work harder on being with him (because S14 tends to isolate himself much more than D8 I guess being a teen and all). And told him he wants to go to the library every week which I will do. And that if the therapist wants him to have therapy I think it might be a good idea for him to get his feelings out.

I asked him to reply back to me about that as I felt that our communication re: the kids which he wants us to do (I think he read about that in the Good Divorce book or maybe his therapist suggested it?) and it is always just me doing all the communicating, monologuing, and emailing re: the kids and when I ask him a question he is monsyllable or no talking at all. I feel that wherever he learned about the communicating about kids idea (therapist or book) I doubt they intended for just one parent to do the communicating and having it be one-way communication only.

He of course has not replied back to me today re: my email re: the kids although he has replied back to me about an email I sent re: a bill.

I feel like not communicating with him anymore & not taking the weekly "communicating about the kids" walks on the weekends that he wanted to do b/c of that at least until he begins to communicate with me as well. Do you think that is a good idea and if so, should I email him or talk to him about that or just stop communicating (as he does!) without any notice???? I just feel it's unfair the way we have been doing it with just me doing all the communication and him refusing to talk!!! I'd appreciate any/all comments on this b/c I don't want to be unfair to H but I also don't want to be unfair to myself either! \:\) Karen

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