, I don't think those of us without kids have the same obligations.
KlM,
Pain is Pain, Being "scared" of the future is the same if you have kids or not. I guess thinking about how it would hurt my son if I were to divorce does make my heart pain. but even if I did not have him. I would / still lose most of what I have posession wise.. The thing that I think hurts most about having kids is that my W "seems" happy with us living as "room mates". So Even though she had the affair that nobody knows about.. When and if I ask for a divorce I WILL BE THE ONE ending this artifical marriage. It hurts making ME the bad guy when I did nothing wrong.. But I still feel that with or without kids WE ALL HURT. We all have been through something that I would not wish on anybody... Even the OM family.. (W if she found out)...
Dr Love
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know