So the way I handled it last week is I was pleasant, but neutral. Like I was spending the weekend with a friend. We did yard work together, etc. But I didn't flirt, tease him, touch him at all.....
I was just a "nice" person who happened do be doing things with H some of the time. The rest of the time I did my thing (usher at church, play w/the kids, run errands, etc). I think that is the course this weekend. Not to "coddle" him, not to try to sweep him off his feet, etc. Just to be me doing my own thing.
You are right, that is the only thing that has gotten me progress so far. Being independent. I will continue to act "as if" we are on our way to an official separation. Because, in truth, we are, if things stay this way.
You are right, I am very much afraid that when we have the "final talk" it will be more of the same. He will be unable to "move" from where he is now. And I CANNOT, WILL NOT eat my words. If that is it, then that is it. But I don't know if it is really that time yet. So I shall wait another week. After that, we will think it over again.....
