I'm reasonably sure that the OM is out of the picture now, so I'm not really worried that she will be leaving me because of him. At this point, she's just not sure if she will ever be "in-love" with me again. Of course, she's still here, and I think her actions speak louder than her words. She's still conflicted, and I'm still DBing. I've achieved some peace with her As and my role in the destruction of our M. I also know that I've turned myself around completely, I'm happy with my changes and I do not fear returning to my former bad habits. I've also realized that there is really nothing else I can do at this point - she must make her choice and we will both have to live with that decision. I hope she chooses to stay, but if she leaves I will move on. It will be difficult of course, especially since we have a 2 year old son in the equation, but I know I can be happy without her if that is what must be. When I first started DBing, I had to act as if things would be okay either way, but now I really believe it. Perhaps she will notice that difference too. I hope so, but again, the pressure is off and the proverbial ball is now in her court.
I wouldn't necessarily call my words "wise", but I'm glad if you can use my experiences to your benefit.
