I was in the middle of constructing my last post and didn't see this latest discussion until after I had finished it. No, of course I don't mind your having this discussion here. Hijack all you want. I love to read all of this.
I think a lot like dcr. I never used to be a snooper, never felt the need, always trusted her implicitly. However, since D-day, I have had moments in which snooping, and not finding anything, has brought me considerable relief. On the other hand, Sage is right. Most of the time, snooping and not finding anything doesn't fully satisfy me and doesn't really prove anything. I wish I could get my W to do some of the things Sage mentioned that would help show her trustworthiness, but even though I've mentioned how much I would appreciate it, she mostly hasn't done them.
