Quote: And, in NO way do I mean to make this sound easy. It blows.
you can say that again!!!
the only thing I can add to sage's awesome words of wisdom (ya know what...she doesn't even know how truly awesome a dbr she is) is to check out one of the "stories" in dr...off hand I don't recall wich one's they are I'll check and get back to ya with the specifics but the gist is this...
things weren't great...w discovers h is involved in a bit of an ea with a f coworker...obviously w is not happy about this and wants that r to end...but she let's it go...she works on herself and her attitude with h..making things possitive and bettering the r in ways that she can...she wants to know about ow but doesn't ask..as time goes by..h eventually takes her out to dinner and whala...let's her know that he no longer speaks to ow and that he loves her and is happy...tra la la they go off into the sunset and there ya go.
what if w IS still talking to om...will asking her or looking for evidence get her to stop?? nope..I went that route when I first discovered my h's ea...supposedly it ended..I asked...I called ow...I pressured h..he moved out..asked for d...yada yada yada...I got db...h came home after a 6 month sep...I try to keep my inquiries about ow to a minimum if I even speak of her at all...I will admit to snooping on occassion...and can tell you that h and I are much better off when I don't...even if I don't find anything remotely susspisous...things are just better when I leave it alone.
