Help me act AS IF, Thread 4

[newnamenewlife]

Well, we went. We talked about some scenarios, yet I STILL cannot really accept this. I ended up going back to trying to make sense of his total unwillingness to think of anything except S. I cried.

He said I should think of it in terms of him not being the right person for me anymore. In fact, if he's going to be as cold and removed and weird, he's not. Later, I alluded to the exhausting prospect of dating again and he said: "You'll have no trouble. You're beautiful, smart and funny. Men will be all over you."

Now that made me ILL--to think he is so over me that the thought of me with another man is just fine with him???

Anyway, we agreed that he would stay in the house until we renovated the 3rd floor to make it rentable. That is not a huge project, but it's a big deal because we just renovated so we could take over the third floor and give the kids their own rooms.

It's very hard for me to think of taking action on any of this because it feels so overwhelming. Should I get the ball rolling on renovating, or leave it to him?