For the guys with kids and a WAW

[hopeful4her]

I understand your pain. I also feel like she does not have the right to disrupt all of our lives. I had been feeling like maybe the kids are better off with the mom. Not for any other reason than maybe her bond is a little closer. WAW has always been a great mom, maybe to a fault. More like she wants to be a friend, especially to the 14 year old and her nephew. I have always had to be the one to say no to them. They know to always go to her for something they want. I always have to be the strong one. I have been thinking of maybe a 50/50 split, but don't know. Is my reconciliation chance more important than what I feel is the best for my kids. Again, I feel the pain, but I will not be walked all over any more. She can't have things both ways. I know she loves our family life together, but also wants what is on the other side. We get along so great, but she has become two people. I have withdrawn, pursued, chased, begged, withdrawn again and now have gone to a place that is where I have to take care of myself and not be trying to cater to her. The kids are the important thing.