I have not posted on my own thread in quite some time. I have been doing a great deal of thinking and have reached a point where this chapter of my life needs to end.
For a long time these boards meant something to me and lately I have lost sight of what that was. I fought the moderators on their decisions and have come to realize that maybe they were right about a lot of things.
While I do not agree with cutting off outside of boards contact, I do believe that some of the focus of these boards have been lost. Divorcebustings website was designed to encourage people in our situations to work on ourselves and trying to improve our relationship skills in order to possibly save our marriages.
I look around and see a lot of socializing, and unfortunately I have to look upon myself as well and take responsibility for the fact that I am as guilty as anyone about having social use for these boards and not always being focused on their actual intent.
I am not speaking to anyone in particular, so do not get your panties or tighty whities in a bunch and start the typical drama crap because I am stating my feelings on things. I am merely at a point where my life needs to move forward and the boards more often then not frustrate me rather than helping me.
For those of you who are on here for social reasons and not for the purpose intended, I would encourage you to evaluate why you are here and if it is not to give back to those who need help, then maybe it is time to walk away. The meaning of this sight is very clear, sometimes we lose focus on that as our circle of friends in this site grows and we forget our purpose here. I wonder how many of us actually still pop into newcomers and give back to our humble beginnings?
There are far to many incredible people on here who have helped me in the past to name them so I will merely say thank you to those of you who have supported me over these last 19 months. I have come a long way since the bomb dropped thanks to all of you. I wish all of you luck and happiness as you move forward with your lives.
