Ok. Stop. Just stop asking the question. To me, this says you are terminally available to him and this is the type of thing I can see leading to premature action on your part. You need to stop thinking about this. You need to stop talking to him about this. You just need to live and let him do whatever it is he will do. Stop texting. Stop wondering what he is doing.
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I recognized that he wasnt at OW's house and that there was a different vehicle at her place. Maybe she will find someone else. Maybe he went to his therapist this morning...who knows. Im just ready for him to hit bottom already....
Enough of this too. The problem is not the OW. The problem is your H. If I recall correctly, this is not the first time he has strayed. As for hitting bottom, I have know drug addicts in my day. Death was bottom for some of them. His bottom may never come.
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I asked what he was going to be doing on his day off! Trying to be upbeat...he just replyed...absolutely nothing. Sit on his a@@. I said ok, and I hope he enjoyed his day off. He said nothing else but thanks and bye.
Know what. From what I see he is being a jerk. He wants to punish you for not letting him have his own way. Stop trying for him. He has to try for you. Actually, he has to try for himself.
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The devil has his grasp on so many of our spouses it makes me sick.
This is not the devil. This is his human side. What he is doing isn't evil. What he is doing is human.
See kissak what you are doing is making everything in your life about him. You are making it about his life, what he is thinking, what he is doing, where he is, where he isn't, and on and on. What you are doing is staying on the merry-go-round. Get off. The park is closed. The season is over. Next season will come again, but you will be older. Your tastes will change. You will look at the merry-go-round and head to the ferris wheel. You need to back away from the insanity. You need to be able to be able to tell the difference between the quick fix versus the long-term fix. And by your constant attention to his state of mind and body, you are not doing it. You are staying on te merry-go-round.
So, walk away. Walk away from his instability. Do this for you. The fact is you do not need this man and he may never change, but you are doing eveything to show that he never has to worry. He knows he can buffalo you still. He is still playing you. But you are not going to be able to tell when he changes tactic. There is no quick fix for him. Step away. Leave him alone. Don't engage him. He is still trying to suck you back in. Long-term solutions...many, many months...perhaps years. This man is not changing overnight. But he is reading your words to suggest that he can. You need to prove to yourself (not him) that this is not the case.
