Any thoughts on how I could get her to someone that could help with depression and anger? She just will not go. I think she thinks that if we got D it would be a disadvantage if I wanted the kids.
You need to get her to get professional help ASAP. Your M problems will NOT get better if she is really bi-polar and not on treatment. And it really sounds as if she could be alcoholic. I suggest you get to a local chapter of Al-anon as soon as possible and let them guide you in what you have to do.
I pray for you, bro.
Me 43 W 42 M 1998 S16 S15 D7 D4 bomb 07/03/2007 OPA ILYBNILWY My Thread
I had a long talk with her this morning and she said that she would go to my Psyc with me on Tuesday. Let's see what happens. She really needs to go on med's. She said she didn't want to, dosn't like the feeling. Drinking is really an issue. I believe that she went to Al-anon on her own for issues with my son but I don't know what came of it. Thanks for your thoughts.
If she agrees to see your psych thats more than just a baby step!!! If she is an alcoholic he is the right guy to make the diagnosis. But from being diagnosed to the patient accepting the diagnosis is a major step and can take time and often a lot of suffering and heartbreak for all involved. She has to accept the diagnosis before she can begin to recover.
I pray that she will be open to his help, and not just go in order to be able to say "I tried everything" later...
Me 43 W 42 M 1998 S16 S15 D7 D4 bomb 07/03/2007 OPA ILYBNILWY My Thread
She agreed to go but has tennis until half way through the morning. She needs to be told she has depression also. Drinking adds to this depression. She does not drink alot but she does not need to and she drinks often. I get the feeling she was told by her L not to drink anymore until this is over.
I think she wants to go to the Psych because I have been sharing what he has been saying about our sitch and her and she wants a chance to defend herself. She did see another psych who was very concerned about her drinking and that being the center of her social life. She basically lied about how much she drank in that meeting saying she only has two. She has two before she even goes out. Very sad.
I am not an expert but I have heard that even one drink a day can make you an alcoholic - If you have to have it. Maybe you should discuss it with the doc before she gets there.
Me 43 W 42 M 1998 S16 S15 D7 D4 bomb 07/03/2007 OPA ILYBNILWY My Thread
Quite evening. We all went to S12 soccer game. I asked W if we could have a nice night for the kid and she agreed. All was well until we dropped himoff at the dance and then she started landing on me about the L appointment next Wednesday. I think she is getting very nervous. So much for a quite night.
Pretty quite weekend. We spent a lot of time together at kids sporting events. She started riding me last night so I left the house and went out and GALed with some buddies. Just hung out, watched a fight, eat some great food. I also played golf this weekend which was very nice. We have the big L meeting on Wednesday which is making everyone very nervous around here. She is very pushy about going ahead with getting things going with the big D. I wish there was some way of fixing this but it does not look good from here.
