You are definitely in a tough situation, with your husband working with the OW. It would be very hard for me. I'd probably be a total snoopaholic (even knowing that it was the wrong thing to do). Thankfully in my case, my W could never see the OG again, if she follows through with her latest promise. My W, too, never wants to discuss the A, and I think I'm mostly past the stage of wanting to know many of the details. But I know she thinks about it a lot, and it's hard not to ask what she's thinking.
If I may ask some personal questions: how long was it after you found out about the A before you started having sex again? Who initiated? Is it starting to seem "normal" again?
I will try to do what you suggest, and plan a few dates. Our schedules clash over the next few weeks (I'll be working when she's not, and vice versa), but I'll try to figure out something.
Patience is difficult for me. I just want this whole nightmare to end. But it's either one nightmare (D) or another (the slow and painful process of restoring our R). Let's hope it's the latter, and let's hope it somehow turns into a sweet dream.
