Hi Bri, I know how hard it is, if you are anything like me, I feel like if I go and do something(because I do not work) that I will miss something or H will contact the OW. Although I am pretty sure H has cut all ties except for work. It does seem that way, but because I was hurt & violated so badly & it hasn't been that long I still feel alittle shaky about it all. My H is doing & saying all the right things too. But I guess you just wonder I wish this was something we could all get over overnight but I think it takes much longer than that unfortunately. Maybe your right even though you'll be gone and she does totally cut ties it will be because of her and not you. I hope everything works out for you. Try not to snoop anymore that was a very big mistake of mine, which I felt the need to know, it hurt worse when I found out things, but it also pushed my H futher away & he got mad. Go figure he was the one who was screwing around & he got mad at me I thought that really sucked considering my H would have totally hit the roof if the shoe was on the other foot. I am glad things are going good I am still afraid to let my guard down, I just keep praying that something like this will never happen again, I don't think I could handle it. What are your feelings on that do you worry about that? Because in my M I really wasn't aware that things were that bad, I really don't think they were but I am always afraid of messing up even if I think I'm doing the right things. I will be thinking about you so if you have time while in Japan let us know how you are doing, like I said before call your W a few times while away to see how she is doing, without asking about he OG & see what happens maybe she will volunteer some information and I think by you calling without any R talk or OG talk she'll know you still care but are giving her some space. You would think it would be the other way around HUH? But the book says sometimes what feels totally unnatural is what you should do. Take care. ~~K~~
