Thanks for the encouragement. When I get discouraged about the odd's of our ever being happy together again, it's nice to be able to think about all of the many cases on this board that have been in seemingly more precarious positions than me and my W. I marvel sometimes at some of the threads, where the situation seemed hopeless, but somehow there was a recovery.
I think I will back off the R talk, the cuddling, and the "I love you"s. I really want to do them, but she doesn't. They only seem to make her angry, sad, or withdrawn. I guess it's harder, but more real, to show her through actions. I know I should try to be the guy she married. I don't feel much like him right now. I just feel like a worn out, sad, pathetic loser who's obsessed with something he has little control over. I realize that this guy is no fun to be around.
And I will try to be more clued into the signs of what is working, and what is not.
