Letter from WAW after she flew to my city for talk

[thegoodfight]

Seems like she is still in fantasy land. Drop the hammer, she needs to make a decision. I like the post from Just me. I would flat out call her on it. I would say something to the effect of bottom line either you are in or you are out, you aren't going to have two lovers in your life.

I would not give a timeline because that is a decision for you and it will probably change but I agree she is not ready, and frankly given what you know you are not ready. You need to have time to come to terms with her unfaithfulness and decide if you want to forgive and move forward or forgive and move on.

Don't put yourself through the pain, she needs to show you commitment, not tell you about it!

I wish you well, the recovery road is tough, her state of mind does not appear to be where it needs to be. Save yourself more pain by having her come home and hurt you more. Work it out for yourself and let her know you don't want her back right now. You are going to take some time and decide if you want her back in the future.

Take the power away! My reasoning is you don't have kids and you can make a clean break. I am not saying you should, but take some time and figure it out.

I wish you well!