Hi kissak,

your H is trying to figure things out, is a good sighn. Let him be.

You now have to be strong and patient. You told him you will be working on your marriage when OW is out of picture and now he has to deal with that.

Let him be. You are doing the right thing. THere is nO WAY your marriage will work out if OW is STILL inthe picture.

It will not be easy but you have to be patient and let him be.

Notice i keep rpeating that. I have been on the boards for a long time and realize PATIENCE is key.

just keep living YOUR life andkeep your focus on you and the kids.

If you want the spinning to stop, cycling, you have to stand strong.

((Hugs)))