I am curious if my W has been nice to me at certain times, just to use me for what she wants. Like get 5D on Easter, which was my day. I don't think she has, but be careful not to be the doormat, the post to lean on, etc...while he digs out the foundation from under you.
I think this has happened in my sitch. I have been completely flexible with shared time with our children; but I am leaving for Puerto Rico for a week in a few days. I am giving up 4 days with the kids and she is only willing to give me two back. She went to a work conference for 5 days and then I agreed to give her the next 5 days when she got back. Now, when roles are reversed; she is giving me one extra day before I leave and one extra when I get back; but no more than that. She says the difference is that hers was for work and mine is for vacation.
There are times we have to stand up for ourselves and fight for what is right no matter how much we want them back. It's about respect and courtesy. Their is no reason to get nasty. I remain polite and firm. I am letting her know that I am not pleased with her decision and I will remember her unwillingness to give me back time that I gave up. I would not be going on this trip if it hadn't been planned and paid for before I received D papers.
Good luck to you HiC. I agree with jmw128 that things are moving in a positive direction. Don't read negativity into it. I have the tendency to do that with EVERYTHING my W does; so I know how hard it is not to. Jmw128, keep up the good posts. I really enjoy reading them!
