She's not mad that I am reading or trying, she's upset that it took her filing for divorce to get me to really see and notice that I needed to do something.
Hi M i've been reading your story, and I see this all over the show. Why did it take a D to make you change? The thing is, if I understand DBing correctly ANY partner can be the first to change, and that should set the domino effect of changes in the R in motion. My question is: If she needed you to change so badly, why did she not change herself? I am not suggesting you tell your W this. But I do think you should not beat yourself up about this. She is just as guilty as you are for the decline of your R. The difference is that she is not willing to take responsibility to repair what she has helped to break, while you are. Did this D promt her to change? No. But you have changed. You are the hero in this sitch.
Me 43 W 42 M 1998 S16 S15 D7 D4 bomb 07/03/2007 OPA ILYBNILWY My Thread
